Are you, as a cis man, attracted to a trans woman? Have you realized that the situation has evolved from a simple fetish to a much more valuable love? But do you know what you need to know about entering into a serious relationship with a trans woman?

For trans women, it is extremely important that romantic relationships are realistic, intimate and fulfilling. If you are a cis man who has lost his heart to a trans woman, we advise you to consider these characteristics. However, as in any serious and real relationship, gaps and miscommunication between trans women and cis men can turn the situation into a drama and cause the two parties to drift apart. But there are ways to keep this compelling and thought-provoking love story drama-free. With these ways, get ready to set sail for the most beautiful love with that wonderful trans woman you have fallen in love with.

EVERY TRANS WOMAN IS A UNIQUE CHARACTER

Our advice to cis men is to consider that every trans woman is unique and has unique needs in every sense. In particular, experiences around gender and sexuality are unique and specific to each individual.
Trans women have been exposed to situations that cisgender women will never be exposed to.

They often experience the difficulty of being in the middle of challenging situations such as prejudice and discrimination. At this point, what trans women need is to see a cis man from whom they can draw strength and from whom they do not hesitate to be themselves. These obvious differences open the door to many different situations that need to be respected and accepted while pursuing a trans woman.

APPROACH WITH SINCERE AND GENUINE CONCERN

Perhaps the most important rule of being with a trans woman is this one. First of all, as a cis man, you need to know that there are more men than you think who are specifically focused on fetishes or sexuality for trans women. To stand out from these men, you need to be different and maintain your sincerity and respect.

As a cis man, you need to figure out if you are a “chaser” who is only after fetishes or if you are someone who is after true trans-attracted love. Because if you really think you are in love with a trans woman, knowing where you stand will help you get the right approaches.

If you’re a chaser, your conversations will mostly center around trans women’s anatomy and sexuality. If you tend to ask rude questions about her gender transition, boom! You are in the wrong place. If you ask about genitals in the second message, you are a chaser and have no chance in a serious relationship. This kind of approach will create negative emotions in trans women.

If you want to get ahead of these men and pursue a real relationship, you should be genuinely interested in trans women. Focus on the hobbies, likes and dislikes, career, feelings and thoughts of the person you are interested in. Be curious about the flow of her daily life rather than her sexual preferences. This will signal to the other person that you are different and you may attract attention.

DON’T FOCUS ON ANATOMY AND TRANSITIONAL SURGERY

Trans women are the bravest women you will ever meet, because they have completed an amazing journey of transformation and are living their lives as the best version of themselves. However, we want to emphasize that this journey is a private and sensitive process. You need to respect trans women’s privacy and especially not act as if you are curious about their gender identity, anatomy and sex life. Talking about these issues requires time and trust in the relationship.

Every trans person is unique and may experience dysphoria for a variety of reasons. At this point, you will need to give them time and ensure that the relationship progresses in trust. By talking and giving time to the trans woman you like, you can experience everything that should be experienced in a romantic relationship at the highest level.

It is also natural to be curious about the process of transition surgeries. However, it is useful to choose the right way and time to ask the question. Instead of asking questions like “Did you have a haircut?”, ask how this process makes her feel and what difficulties she has been exposed to during this period. In an ideal relationship, understanding is as important a cornerstone as any other element. A good partner always focuses on the other person’s feelings and expectations.

HOLD A MIRROR TO YOURSELF

It is natural to like a trans woman. However, if these feelings still make you ask questions like “am I gay”, you should seek support from a therapist rather than the person you like. Looking for the answer to this question in the person you like shakes the foundation of the relationship. Remember, the reason for this interest is hidden in you rather than the other person.

Being straight or gay does not determine whether you will be attracted to a trans woman. Trans women represent courage and strength in every sense. Trans women work on their sexual identity and sexual relationships in the sense of finding themselves. We encourage you to do the same. Have a solid understanding of your own identity and work through your own experiences and expectations before you get in touch with the person you like.

LIVE YOUR RELATIONSHIP BRAVELY

Accept the trans woman you like for who she is and introduce her to your friends or family. If you don’t have the courage to do this, give up from the beginning. Point. There is nothing more repulsive than hiding the fact that you are in a relationship with a trans woman. Hiding it will make you look insecure and insecure in the eyes of your partner. This can be emotionally damaging for both the person you are attracted to and for you.

We know, social pressure is hard. Not caring what anyone says is harder for all of us than we think. But keep in mind that this is much more challenging for trans women. Because they are in a serious test against social norms every day, and your fear of social norms may seem repulsive and cowardly to them.
If you want to have a good relationship, you have to be strong enough to take responsibility.

There is nothing more attractive than a man who is proud of his trans partner and bravely shows it. In social situations, it is your partner’s responsibility to share the information that she is trans, or to disclose her identity with her consent. Here we would like to remind you again that every trans woman is unique. Because during this period, your trans partner’s expectations from you and your expectations from him/her form the basis of the relationship. Open and honest communication is all that is needed at this point.

UNDERSTANDING TRANS EXPERIENCES REQUIRES EMPATHY

Having a trans partner means having someone who is brave, independent, unique and special. Remember that these traits carry weight and you need to have a strong character to carry trans women with these traits.

Each person is unique and there are no binding rules for having a relationship. Trans women are not so different from cisgender women. However, their way of being creates challenges for many cisgender trans-attracted men. Respecting differences, being aware of and respectful of expectations can open the door to more fulfilling, consistent, long-lasting and authentic relationships for both parties.
Make sure you have the empathy and patience to understand trans experiences. And we want you to know that sharing the life and experiences of a trans woman is a unique adventure that many will never experience.

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