Who doesn’t want a healthy, active and passionate sexual life and have an orgasm? Optimizing this romantic and exciting life function, which plays an extremely important role in the quality of life, is like finding the source of happiness. Because beyond ordinary pleasure, it is an important source of life that forms the basis of being a healthy individual.

After gender affirmation surgery, sex and sexual health becomes the most important issue, especially for trans women. Because as a part of becoming who you are, sexual life is as vital as social life. Being satisfied during sex positively affects mental health by reinforcing self-confidence and increases self-esteem. From this perspective, orgasm for trans women is a sensitive issue that needs to be prioritized.
The 3 most popular approaches to gender affirming surgery for trans women are as follows:

Orchiectomy: This surgery removes the testicles. It can be performed as a stand-alone surgery or can be performed during vaginoplasty.
Vaginoplasty: In this operation, the penis, testicles and scrotum are removed to create a vaginal canal. The surgeon also creates a clitoris with part of the glans penis.
Vulvoplasty: In this surgery, the surgeon creates a vulva that includes the mons pubis, labia, clitoris and urethral opening. This option is also referred to as minimal depth vaginoplasty.

When Can Trans Women Have Sex After Surgery?

DR. MFO states that people can have full intercourse approximately 12 weeks after invaginoplasty surgery. Having sex before this time can delay the healing of the wounds and lead to complications. A few days to a week after surgery, you can return to daily life or work.

However, full recovery takes approximately 2-8 weeks. In the first weeks following surgery, people may be temporarily restricted from certain activities such as driving or heavy lifting. It may be helpful to make sure that the wounds have healed completely so that you can return to your normal sex routine. A surgeon will advise you when you can have sexual intercourse after surgery and give you some instructions on what to look out for.

Remember, good things take time and patience.

Gender Dysphoria and Having Orgasm

In our daily lives, in our social relationships and in our romantic relationships, almost all of us face various psychological struggles as we assert who we are. For transgender women, this situation can turn into a struggle in some cases. One of the leading psychological manifestations of this struggle is “gender dysphoria”. Most trans women who achieve gender harmony with their bodies can come to the point of a serious test with dysphoria.

This situation can cause questions such as “am I liked”, “am I loved”, “am I valuable”. This situation, which can be triggered more especially in romantic relationships, can directly affect sexual life in a negative way. In many cases, trans women may have to struggle with feelings of dissatisfaction, inadequacy and inadequacy.

Tips on How to Have an Orgasm During Sexual Intercourse

Basically, having an orgasm is an important resource that nourishes self-confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. One of the questions that trans women wonder about utilizing this resource during gender transition is; “will I be able to have an orgasm”.

Today, transgender women share with experts that their sensation is significantly preserved, often with no loss of sensation at all, and that most transgender women have significantly increased sexual satisfaction and full orgasmic potential. The external appearance of the vagina is no different from that of a congenital vagina.

In short, there is no need to fall into the trap of body dysphoria and postpone pleasure! Because now you have a body and a sex life that is compatible with you.

Sex surgeries require extreme sensitivity at every stage. After surgery, it takes time for people to recover and start experiencing orgasms. When people undergo vulvoplasty, the surgeon creates a clitoris from the head of the penis. This means that most trans women can experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation. If the surgery in question is vaginoplasty, individuals may experience clitoral sensation, but this can vary from person to person. Although nerve regeneration begins about 3 weeks after surgery, it can rarely take a year or more to regain sensation.

At the end of the studies, it was understood that; In an interview after rectosigmoid vaginoplasty, 79 of the participants had sexual intercourse and 72 of them experienced orgasm.

Let’s discuss what you can do to get maximum efficiency from sexual life and increase the possibility of orgasm:

• Remember that the secret to a healthy and feel-good orgasm is first and foremost in you. That’s why we recommend investing in personal development and mental health through yourself.
• Own your body and love yourself for who you are. Although orgasm is associated with the performance of the partner, remember that self-love comes first. You are beautiful and valuable as you are.
• Keep up with your personal care, nutrition and exercise to keep you fit. A healthy body will help you experience good feelings at a higher level. Who knows, you may even see the top.
• Project your self-love and self-confidence to your partner and make them desire you. A confident, self-confident man with his feet firmly on the ground is always attractive.
• Surrender to the flow and your desires during sexual intercourse. Listen to your partner’s wishes and share the process.
• Prepare your body before sex. Choose clothes or underwear in which you feel comfortable and sexy. Stretch your body.
• Regular body exercises can relax your body and help you relax. Flexible and relaxed muscles will make it easier for you to orgasm.
• Make the setting romantic and choose dim lighting. A little mystery will make everything more appealing.
• Remember that perfumes, essences and various oil-based scents are also stimulating. Anything is possible in a fragrant environment decorated with romantic candles.
• Be bold in making your demands. Politely and elegantly guide your partner in a way that makes you feel good.
• Control stress, anxiety and dysphoria with various breathing exercises. Regular breathing exercises are a very effective way of dealing with stress.

Remember, everything beautiful takes time and requires a lot of patience. It can be important for your mental health to take time for yourself after your surgeries and to give yourself time to return to your sexual life routines.

The Health Aspects of Returning to Sexual Life for Trans Women

It’s very brave and cool to shape the body by owning your own gender. But it is also a delicate process. Gender affirmation surgeries such as vaginoplasty require dedication, patience and sensitivity. After the surgery, individuals need to use a vaginal dilator to stretch the vaginal canal and keep it open. After surgery, people may need to dilate twice a day for at least 15 minutes. This provides the necessary exercise to maintain the shape of the vagina.

The surgeon will instruct individuals on how to use the dilator safely and correctly. Although people may feel some discomfort when they start to dilate, it does not cause severe pain. Because orchiectomy can lower testosterone levels, it may cause mood swings or low energy after surgery.

Individuals may need to use plenty of lubricant to protect the vagina during sex and to feel more comfortable. There may also be tenderness in the entire genital area, including the anus, after surgery. Be sure to ask your surgeon or health care provider for detailed information about hygiene and care of the genital area after surgery. Keeping the risk of infection to a minimum during this period will speed up the healing process and return to routines.

Having a self in harmony with your body in every aspect of your life beyond sexual life is the basis of self-confidence. Beyond the sexes, listening to the tastes, desires and expectations of the self and prioritizing oneself is always the best guide. When you look back on your sexual life, don’t forget how brave and valuable you are as you complete your journey of transformation.

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